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Me, this year

thumbs upThis is like part my new year’s resolutions, part a diary entry, part a declaration of what I want in life. There is something magical about a new beginning and reassessing where you are and where you want to be. But, be careful, don’t linger in the past. It is exactly that, past. You can’t change it so don’t dwell on it. Reflect, but do it with the utmost love and forgiveness for yourself.

FEAR: I am done with fear. I am tired of worrying about what people think of me. I am tired of being scared to follow my gut. I am tired of following the unwritten rules because I am afraid to live by my own set. Look out world, I’m coming for you.

FITNESS: I am going to get to the point that I can do anything physical without thinking twice. Tennis? Sure! Go for a hike? Of course! 5K tomorrow? Yep! Anything that comes along I will be capable of doing.
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WEIGHT: I seriously don’t care about how much I weigh any more. Am I comfortable in what I wear? If yes, than I am good. I love my body. Why should I worry about whether other people do?

BRAIN: I am going to feed my brain daily. I am going to cherish and protect it like the magical creation that it is. I am going to read books that overwhelm me, that inspire me, that teach me, that challenge me, that fill me up.

SLEEP: I am going to make sleep my bitch!

LOVE: I am going to be fair with my love. I am going to love more and ‘mad’ less. I will try to praise before I criticize. I will end fights at that moment when you realize that you are actually just frustrated about something else.
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KIDS: I am just going to keep loving them with all of my capabilities. I will not worry that they don’t have something, or that they can’t be in everything, or that they were ‘bored’ yesterday. I will not compare myself to other moms. All they need is my love and my time.
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BUSY: I am going to keep on saying NO. I simply don’t like being busy. I am not going to feel guilty about that anymore.
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HAPPY: I am going to make this the hap hap happiest year since Bing Crosby danced with Danny f’ing Kay… But, seriously, life is amazing and I have so much to be grateful for. I love my life and I am going to focus on my special brand of happy.

CHEERS!

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me will tennisThe other day I posted on my candysbrain blog facebook page that I was in a bit of a work-out-rut. To snap out of it, I went to the local sled hill and did sprints. It was hard and I am sore but it was also great. In 20 min. I did a great work out that made me feel strong and powerful. I felt like I was doing some much need strengthening of my legs, glutes, abs, etc. I made the joke that ‘this ass is not going to lift itself!’ It made me realize that I had high-hopes for this summer and I am not where I pictured myself for the end of July. I had more of a Jessica-biel-type-image in my mind. (What can I say, I dream big) It is almost fricking August and I’m barely different than when I started (fitness wise, the weight is a food thing). I wanted to get some sort of ‘abs’ this summer. NOT achieved. I wanted to do a 5k in under 29 min. NOT achieved. I wanted to break a sweat 4-5 times a week (sitting on my porch drinking in the sun doesn’t count). NOT achieved.

So what is a goal failure like myself to do? Re-commit! That is right, start now. I don’t want to be the person with the mind set, well I blew June/July so might as well wait until next summer. That’s like having McDonalds for lunch and saying ‘oh well, today is shot. I’ll have ice cream for dinner.’

But, the hardest part of all fitness plans is the accountability part. How can I stay honest during the next 30 days or so?

That’s where all of you come in. I was hoping I could recruit some of you to join me in a fitness challenge. Logistically this gets tricky. I don’t want to and don’t have the time to blog every day about what my exercise plan is. Too time consuming and repetitive. BUT- I can post stuff to the Candysbrain blog facebook page! AND- I don’t want to do this alone and have it be all about me. I would love it if you joined me and posted stuff to the page, commented on my posts, share your tips, ask questions, etc. Any and all fitness levels are welcome. I realize not everyone is ready for sprints or extreme sports, go at your own pace. And, to be clear, this is for women AND men. Here are the little guidelines I thought we could use to keep us moving to. This is what I came up with but I would love to hear your ideas:

1. Minimum of 3 workouts per week

2. At least 1 workout each week has to be something other than running

3. At least 1 workout each week has to be something other than cardio (run, elliptical, bike, etc.)

4. At least 2 workouts during the month have to be something ‘new’ (something you normally don’t do: yoga, hiking, rock climbing, kayaking, etc.)

5. Have some sort of objective measurement system. This could be weight, measurements (waist, hips,etc.), time for a mile or 5k, number of push-ups you can do, etc. It is good to have stats that you can measure yourself against.

And, depending on how involved all of you are… Wouldn’t it be fun to sign up for a 5k together?! If you’re not local, we can do it around the same time. If you are local, we can all run together! I might be a little optimistic here that you guys are going to join me, but here’s hopin’….

If you want to follow along and you haven’t ‘liked’ Candysbrain blog on facebook, please do so to stay informed. If you are “IN” for the challenge either comment below or on facebook. I am really excited and motivated right now.

Let’s do the damn thing!

30 Day Challenge Summary

Well, my 30 days is up. Here is what I learned while to trying to be the best me I could be:

  • My happiness really has nothing to do with the number on the scale. I mean, don’t get me wrong, if I really let things get out of control it would bother me. But, if I am within 10 lbs. of my ultimate goal weight, I’m cool.
  • It turns out you cannot have a fun-size candy bar every day for the month of October and lose weight. I know… shocker!
  • I really hate cleaning! I really really do. And, the funny thing is, I don’t really care that much. Yes my house could be cleaner. Yes I could be more organized. But it turns out I can turn blind and satisfied eye to my clutter and still enjoy my day. I would much rather play with my kids, or play with my husband than clean. Perhaps if I had more ‘free’ time, I would feel better about designating time for chores, but until I do I will have a messy house but a happy home.
  • I love helping out people that need it. I will say there was a point when I was at the grocery store and was worrying about money (because we don’t have a lot) and I remembered that I have never had to go to bed hungry or had to choose between feeding my kids and something else. I have always been able to put a winter coat on their backs. No matter how little you think you have, there is always someone with less. What can you sacrifice out of your current budget that may help someone else?
  • Exercise makes me feel good, I know all the good things it does for my body, I enjoy it while I do it, and I still have a hard time getting it done. If I don’t have a plan, I will fail.
  • Sitting around ‘pinning’ pictures of fit women with inspirational phrases does not make my ass tight. I know…shocker! I actually have to put the computer away and do some mother f*cking squats.
  • Writing makes me happy. It always does. For me, there is nothing more soothing than sitting here talking to all of you. I can almost picture you while you are reading this and it makes me smile.
  • This moment right now is when I am at my happiest: I am writing, drinking hot apple cider, I have pasta sauce on the stove, and I am listening to my baby snore away on the monitor (she is sick right now and therefore sounds like a middle aged man from Wisconsin). This is what makes me feel like ‘me’.
  • I am so blessed in my life and in my love. Whenever I am not feeling like ‘me’, I need to take a step back and soak it all in. I need to take a step back and ask myself, “is what I’m doing right now, getting me closer to the ultimate dream for my life?”, or “is what I am doing right now contributing to my future happiness?”, and “is what I am doing contributing to anyone else’s happiness, or is it just my own?”

I don’t know whether I would classify this month as a success. I didn’t reach a lot of my goals. I didn’t lose any weight. I didn’t get organized. But, I did gain a little perspective. I did enjoy sharing it with all of you. Thanks for listening and hopefully you took at least one positive away from all of my ramblings. 🙂

Btw, I feel a little like Oprah using a picture of myself, but this post was about me so I didn’t know what else to use. Don’t judge!

I’m sorry baby, I didn’t mean that. I just get so mad sometimes when I have to do something I don’t want to do. I tell you, the middle class gets screwed! My husband and I both have to work full-time which means we have no time, but we also never have any extra money so I can’t hire anyone to do my chores for me. It’s just not fair! (feet stomping)

Okay, I had to get that off my chest. I know that there are real people with real problems. I know that when your ‘big’ problem is clutter from mail and school projects, that you really don’t have a big problem. Yes, universe, I get the message. Instead of focusing on the tiny insignificant things in my life, I should focus on every single blessing I have. (contented smiling face)

So, back to my project.

Date: 10/29/2012

Weight: 149 (oh screw it!)

Successes:

  • I organized a food drive at my work and it went really well. I gathered two big boxes of food to bring to the pantry which I will do this week.
  • I gave blood. I really should do this more often, it’s so easy. If you don’t give blood, please consider doing it. There are constantly shortages and the world needs you!
  • I did go thru most of my mail/papers and got rid of the old. The problem is that it never stops. Remember from Seinfeld when Newman spoke of why mailmen go crazy b/c the mail never stops. That is how I feel.

Challenges:

  • This was the first time I didn’t get my 3 workouts in. As the weather gets colder it is going to be harder and harder for me to get this in. I need to recommit and come up with a game plan. You know how you do better with your dinners when you plan a menu for the week? I need to start doing this with workouts (Oh, that could be a whole separate blog post).
  • Fricken Halloween Candy!!!

Plan for the coming week:

  • Re-focus on fitness! I need to start making plans for myself and squeezing in mini-workouts every morning and evening. We might not all have an hour every day, but everyone can find 10 mins in the morning and 15 mins in the evening. I may have to turn into one of those people that does jumping jacks during commercials.
  • I still have to find my good deed. I did 2 last week so I could slack off and skip, but then it’s not a challenge. Open to suggestions. Anyone have a good idea of how I can make the world a better place?
  • I do have a friend doing a coat/clothes drive for some kids in need. Here is the link: http://www.facebook.com/#!/CaringForKidsClothingDrive If you have any desire to help out some very deserving kids in need, you can check out this non for profit and make a donation.

Thanks for reading as usual. How are all of you doing?

*Coming this week: a post on Having It All and one about America by the Numbers

If you are just joining us, this is the 2nd week (3rd post) on a 30 day life improvement challenge. Here is the original post . Okay, this week did not go as planned. I have a couple of successes, but did not acheive my goals. I had a little extra stress this week. Normally I am a pretty low stress person, but this week I couldn’t help it. Here’s the breakdown:

Date: October 23rd

Weight: 149 (+1 from last week, -1 total)

Sucesses:

  • The big success was the 5K I did on Saturday. My goal was to do it in under 32 min. I did it in 31.24. That is just over a 10 min/mile pace. I am very proud of that. I started running this summer. Before that I was NOT a runner. When I first started, it sucked, it was hard, and I was slow. Just 4-5 months later of running 1-2 times a week and I acheived my goal. Next year I want to do the same race in under 30 min.
  • Today I had only 20 mins to exercise so I decided to do 1 mile as fast as I could and for the first time I ran a 9 min. mile outside in my neighborhood. It felt like I was sprinting! I seriously do not see how people run faster than that!
  • I gave some good friends a little shout out with my last blog:  It was fun to write and hopefully the people I mentioned felt the love. If you missed it, check it out. I have some pretty amazing friends.

Challenges:

  • Hot Apple Cider and Bacardi, Big sandwich, Halloween candy, donuts, chinese food, Pumpkin Spice Lattes, etc. I never eat as much as I did last week, let alone after committing to the world that I would watch my diet. Total fail! Back on track, starting now! That is why I am drinking a stupid glass of water right now instead of a beer.
  • Using the 5K as an excuse to do all of this ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^. Who am I kidding, it was 3.1 miles. Not a marathon. It doesn’t give me a free pass.
  • I did NOT organize my mail. I still have chaos in the form of paper all over my house. But, my room is still clean!

Next Week:

  • I am organzing a food drive with my work and friends (and who ever else wants to help…..readers?….). The food bank in my community is low on supplies and I want to help.
  • I am giving blood on Thursday! I should do this more often, but I do it at least 2x/year. If you don’t give blood- start!
  • I WILL organize my mail! I will, I will…..
  • No more crazy diet break downs.
  • Be my own #1 advocate. No more waiting around and hoping things will go my way. Start believing that I have control over my life and outcomes.

How are all of you doing? Some of you mentioned that you would join me in your own goals. What are your successes/challenges?

 

(By the way, check back this week. I am currently developing my first and only political blog for this election season. I am sure none of you are sick of politics yet *sarcastic font*. It will be good though- at least I hope it will.)